“Signs of a Life” – Part V
Learning to deal with my stress after the heart attack was no easy task. Before I was even able to get out of the house to talk to a therapist, I first had to learn how to manage my medicine and my blood pressure without getting stressed out. That was no easy task. Any little twinge or extra beat I felt would send me over the edge. Every extra beat would increase my stress, then the blood pressure went up, and that created anxiety. It was a snowball effect. I was checking my blood pressure every 5 minutes and that just made it worse. I didn’t want to be left alone, and I had my cardiologists number on speed dial. Luckily for me, he provided me with his number. We had to play with my prescription strength a little, and I learned to listen to some meditative music and just Be Still.
It wasn’t long into my recovery when my daughter sent me some essential oils and a diffuser off of Amazon. At that point, I didn’t really know what essential oils were or how to use and why would I. So I started diffusing since I received a diffuser with the gift. Since then, I have learned just how important essential oils are when you are using a reputable company that you can trust to provide pure therapeutic grade oils without the toxins and chemicals most smaller companies produce to make their oils cheaper for distribution. If you are interested you can check out my site because now I share as much as I can how these oils and Young Living has helped change my life and my stress levels. (www.believeinessentials.com)
Here are some steps I took to help with my stress & anxiety, and suggest you give it a try:
- Talk with God. I now journal to God every day! My relationship with God has become much stronger and closer. I am now able to recognize His signs and soft small voice. He has told me time and time again that He has a plan for me. I just need to ‘Be Still’ and trust in Him.
- Listen to Meditative Music – Give Yoga a Try!
- Talk with a Therapist – sometimes just hearing yourself talk it out can help you come to terms with your triggers.
- Find your triggers and respond immediately. (Refer back to Part IV for recognizing your triggers)
- Invest in some grade A essential oils and do your research! These oils have helped to keep me grounded emotionally and spiritually. They have helped me sleep, given me courage, and helped me release the negative, accept what is, and to forgive. I diffuse the oils, I apply to my body, and I can even ingest oils from Young Living! It is now the first things I grab when I’m feeling stressed!
- Look around you and focus on finding the below. This is called grounding. It can help you when you feel like you have lost all control of your surroundings.
- Find five things you can see
- Find four things you can touch
- Find three things you can hear
- Find two things you can smell
- and one thing you can taste
- One of the biggest things my therapist helped me with was having those difficult conversations with the ones you love that are hurting you and probably don’t even know it. That seems easy right, but I learned that the way I was having these conversations was not productive and only made matters worse. What I learned though is a technique that involved sandwiching the information together and not making them feel so defensive right out of the gate. Instead of finger pointing, or raising your voice and telling them they need to do this or that, etc. You calmly ask to talk to them as a friend. Tell them you don’t want them to get defensive because that’s not how you want the conversation to go. You simply want to let them know how it makes you ‘feel’ when they do xyz. Odds are, they do not want you to feel that way and they didn’t even realize. It opens up the conversation for some much needed dialogue and compromising without all the finger pointing and rants that you might be used to that only led to nowhere in the past. Give it a try – you won’t be sorry!
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” ~ Jeremiah 29:11