We All Face Disappointments!

Everyone gets disappointed, and everyone deals with disappointments differently. Trust me, I am no better than any of you who may be reading this. It’s easy to say how one should act, or how one should feel, but unless we are walking in the same exact path and the same exact scenarios, we are all different and will never know what or how someone is dealing and living through.  Yes, we may have lost a loved one at the same age, with the same disease, but not exactly in the same manner. Our circumstances are our own and therefore we can not or should not compare our story or situation to anyone elses.

lionofjudahLosing a loved one causes us much more than just a feeling of  ‘disappointment’, but I felt I needed to use a drastic example to get my point across. Whenever we are feeling alone or disappointed, we can all become sad, withdrawn, and sink into ourselves, but thankfully, we have God within us and beside us at all times. We have to remember, He is there holding our hands or carrying us through our darkest times. Yes, we could give into these feelings and continue to go down that deep dark hole and Satin would be very pleased with us. Wouldn’t it be better if when life disappoints us, we disappoint Satin by deciding to make the best out of our situation?

A positive attitude is our most attractive asset and a very valuable thing to have.  No matter what circumstance we are dealing with, it is our decision on how we handle life’s twists and turns.  We can either choose to be joyful with a positive attitude and search as deep as we have to until we find a positive thing to be grateful for.  There is always a positive in even the darkest of moments.

It is so easy to have a good attitude when everything is going our way, but if we want to grow in our spiritual maturity, we need to develop the ability to remain positive even during the storms of our lives. When we can master this challenging element of surprise and remain calm during the storm, it glorifies our God and shines through to others allowing them to recognize there is always something to be grateful for.  When we believe that God is in control at all times, and in all ways, we just have to remember that He loves each and every one of us and that His world is so much larger than our little world. Our lives touch so many other lives, that we don’t even realize the effect we could have someone. God knows though. He knows each and every one of us intimately and knows our every move before we even do. He knows how the chain effect will work, so we just need to believe that everything happens for a reason even when we can’t see the reason. We have to have faith and trust, but realize too that our attitude belongs to us and nobody can force us to have a good attitude or a bad attitude.  Our decision-making powers are our own and we can decide whether to be happy or sad, miserable or joyful. The choice is yours. Just know with God, we will get through the storm with His guiding love, and for that alone, I am grateful!

 

Stop Making Excuses

How many times have we said, “I’ll do it tomorrow.”? How many times have you convinced yourself you don’t feel like doing it today because you don’t feel good, it’s too cold, it’s raining, it’s snowing, it’s too hot out, or there’s not enough time to get it done now?  Well, the time is now to stop making excuses and instead start thinking of all the reasons you need to do it now!

Putting things off until tomorrow is just going to delay everything in life. If you want to make a change, if you want to make more money, if you want to grow in your career, if you want to become a better person, you have to start now.  Just do it! Get off of the sofa, get out of bed, get up and just get going!

Break down those walls you’ve put up around yourself to protect you. Get out of your comfort zone. Take a chance. What do you have to lose? If you don’t start, nothing will change. The decision is yours and yours alone. Only you can change your life and the direction of your journey. You can choose to take the long road, or you can choose to take the fast track.  Ask God to help guide you and to give you the courage you need to start today. Ask for the determination to keep pushing forward even when you don’t want to. He knows what you want. He knows what you need. He knows what you are going to do before you even get moving.

Start now by thanking God for what you have been given and for all the blessings he is sending your way!

Positive Self-Talk

If we are going to make a change, we have to start with ourselves. Remember, we can’t change anyone, we can only change our reaction to situations. That’s why it is so important to look at ourselves in the mirror. What do you see? Regardless of how you might be feeling at the moment, whether you are still in your pajama’s, your hair is a mess, you have circles under your eyes, or maybe you just got back from the gym and you’re all sweaty and feel disgusting, we have to look deeper within ourselves. We have to remember that we are a child of God and He gave each and every one of us life. He gave us the desire and ability to live a life full of abundance. He wants the very best for each of us and it’s up to us to follow his lead.

It is up to us to start believing that we are worth it! It might feel silly to go stand in the mirror and say to yourself, “I am a beautiful person”, “I am strong”, “I am determined and successful”, “I have a lot to be proud of”, or “I am in control of my life”. I could go on and on, but if we don’t change our attitude and remove the negative thinking, with only positive affirmations, we will just talk ourselves into feeling insecure, unloved, unsuccessful, unworthy, and weak.  Do you remember a time when you woke up and just didn’t feel like going to work? You laid there and said to yourself, “I don’t feel good”, “I’m tired.”, “I just don’t want to do anything.”, “I really think I’m coming down with something.”? Sure enough, if you lay their long enough talking yourself into it, you will start to feel those things and you will just roll back over and go back to sleep.  Instead, change your mindset. Ask God for the strength to get you out of bed because you know he has plans for you and any day with God is a good day!

Granted there are some days that God just wants us to lay in bed because we have overdone it lately and our bodies need the rest, or we need quiet time to reflect on ourselves. I can’t tell you how many times God has laid me up because he knew I needed a break. At first, I feel like I was just thrown a curve ball, but then I realize, it was God’s Will.  He knew I was overworked, worn out, and just needed time to rejuvenate my body and soul. I couldn’t be more grateful for those opportunities. You see even in our darkest hours, there is a light of positiveness. We just need to look deep enough and learn to see through the clouds because behind every cloud there is a ray of sunshine!

The next time you are feeling down on yourself, or you don’t want to get out of bed and you are just trying to convince yourself to give into those negative feelings, that’s when you have to force your mindset to positive thinking. Dig deeper into the strength that God gave you. Take the high road. Instead start convincing yourself that you feel great, remember those affirmations: you are strong; you are determined; you are successful; you are loved; you are worthy!

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2018 Positive Thinking

Every day is a new opportunity!  Yesterday, I asked God for some ideas on topics I could Blog about as I regain some focus in my writing this year. Whenever I am writing, I always turn to God for his support, and he always answers me. Sometimes he answers me right away, and other times it takes a little longer for me to pick up on his will, but yesterday it only took about 30 minutes before he answered me!  I had an appointment at the gym and the person I was meeting was delayed, but instead of getting discouraged or mad, it allowed me some extra time to just sit and relax. I happened to find some positive affirmations with an entire list of over 100 exercises and/or thought-provoking ideas that had been written down as motivation for the members of the gym. Immediately, I recognized that list as my sign from God to elaborate on each of those topics in my blog. It it my goal to share positivity with everyone and help change the way we think, because when we are happy and can always find the positive, even in our darkest hours, we can impact so many people and we can live a healthier and happier life in 2018 full of abundance in many different ways!

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I have always been a person who loves to put a positive spin on things and it excites me to play devils advocate with people by getting them to turn their negative thinking into positive thinking. So when this list crossed my path, it grabbed my attention in a big way!  Yes, God is good and he is always listening to us even when we don’t address him specifically.  He knows what we need, what we want, and he continually is leading us to what we need, who we need in our lives, and to become the person he created us to be.  I am excited to begin this thought-provoking series and hope to impact many of you in a positive change for the better!  I would love to make this an interactive experience where we share comments and feedback and other ideas so we can help others change their mindset as well. Everyone has their own story to share and we all need to step out of comfort zone if we are going to make a change for the better! The biggest thing I’ve learned since my heart attack, and I know I’ve said this many times in many different venues, but we can’t change anyone. We can only change our reaction to the situation. This is why I feel it is so important to share with everyone and anyone who is interested in becoming a better person – the person God created us to be!

It’s a New Year and a New Opportunity to Shine!

I’m curious how many of you out there choose a new ‘Word of the Year’? A word that encompasses something that you need to concentrate on in order to become a better you in 2018.  My word last year, was ‘Balance’.  As soon as I selected my word, I started to see the word everywhere I looked.  I needed to find balance in my life. I learned to balance my time with God, my husband, my family, my work, my new business, and self-development.  It was a great year and now that I have developed a better sense of balance, this year I have chosen the word ‘Focus’.

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The word ‘Focus’ for me is so important, because I have balanced out what is important to me, but now I truly need to focus on what is most important and truly focus my time and attention to just that.  It is so easy to be distracted by things like TV, Facebook, Social Media, Facebook, just doing nothing, Amazon, Facebook, etc. LOL – you get the picture I’m sure. So instead of just saying, “this is what I’m going to focus on”, I now have come up with to-do’s for these areas I plan to focus on.  It’s about setting goals and then checking them off one by one!  By structuring and planning my time better, I will be able to focus more on the tasks at hand and have more time available to me to focus on the other areas!

It’s funny, when I came on here to write a post, the last post came up and there it was right in title “Keep Your Focus on God”!  I receive Signs from God all the time, and this was just yet another one to add to my never-ending list of signs!  And thank him for every last one of them!  I’ve tried in the past to start my day with God, and I do for a while, but life creeps in the way and then you get out of the habit. Of course I always spend time with God, but it is so much nicer asking God to come with you and guide you throughout your day.  This year as I focus on these key areas of life, God is definitely one of them. I am committing to start my day every day with God first thing in the morning. I love my coffee time with God and thorough enjoy reading my daily devotional books by Sarah Young!  She truly has you believing you are communicating directly with God!  Her reading has changed my life!

I strongly encourage you to pick your word for the year if you haven’t yet. Don’t be surprised how many times you begin spot your word everywhere!  Focus on what’s important to you!

Keep Your Focus on God

If we keep our focus on God, He will lead us down the right path for us. It is when we take our focus off of God, and follow the lead of someone else that does not have our best interest at heart, is when we can easily be led astray.  God is always with us, through the good and the bad. He will never leave our side no matter what. Though, there are times when even well-meaning friends can lead you astray if you let them. The way to stay on the chosen path for us is to keep our focus on God. Our awareness of His presence is our best protection.

Always remain true to yourself, your desire, and the desires that God has placed in your heart. There will always be trials and tests that we must pass, and during these times we are truly being challenged.  This is when we have to look deeper and harder for God’s signs and listen for that small voice we hear within encouraging us to take the chosen path of remaining faithful to ourselves and to God.

Keep Your Focus on God!

Things always happen for a reason, and while sometimes trying to understand that reason can fog up our  minds, it is important to know that God’s plans are different from our own.

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.” (Ephesians 2:8)

God’s plans make us stronger. God’s plan turns a bad situation into a blessing. God’s plan turns a desire into a need that only He can fulfill. I urge you to look ahead at the open road ahead of you. That road leads to heaven. The challenge you face before you is to stop focusing on your problems and what you don’t have, and think of everything that you do have and are grateful for. When you do this, the road ahead becomes more clear. So keep your focus always on God and the light will shine brightly directing your path down the chosen road for you!

In An Instant

Over the years I have learned just how fast your life can change. In an instant.  One moment you are driving along the road singing and day dreaming, and then the next you are involved in an accident with no idea what happened.  What I have learned in my later years is that God always seems to step in and take control when you need Him to. Sometimes, we don’t even realize we need Him to step in because we think we are so strong we can handle anything that comes our way.  To some extent that is true, because with God we can handle anything.

What we need to remember though is that God has a plan, and it’s always for our good. We may not see it that way at the moment, because in the moment we are too busy thinking of the absolute worse diagnosis, the worse case scenario as to what and why we are in a particular situation that is causing us heartache.  While it is normal to worry about the unknown, it is also impossible for us to change the unknown through worry.  I found in my case, that I was so stressed out from work stress and God knew I needed a break so He gave me the break I needed.  That break though, was a heart attack.  I wondered, how could that possibly make my stress better.  What He gave me though was the time I needed to heal from the inside out. At the time, that break was the worst experience I had ever been through in my life. Yet, at the same time it allowed me the opportunity to learn so much about my self and how to deal with my stress. Looking back now, that situation, and that time, made me a much stronger person.  Today, I have learned to appreciate the small stuff, and let go of the bad stuff. I don’t know what the future holds for me, and I know it could change in an instant.  It could change for the good just as it could change for the bad, so take time to appreciate life in the moment and don’t regret that moment because it could change again in an instant!

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The next time we are feeling the strain of an uphill battle, no matter what that battle is, we need to release our worries to God and tell ourselves that, “I have strength for all things through Christ who empowers me!”  He will not give us more than we can handle.

I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency]. – Philippians 4:13

When we depend on God continually, our perspective changes. We begin to recognize all of those little miracles happening around us every day, while others see only natural occurrences and “conincidences”.  I choose to begin each day with a joyful heart, with expectations that everything happens for a reason and that God’s plans are far superior to my own. Yet I will not lie, there are times I have to remind myself of this over and over again.  In the end though, I know it is for the best and that He will get me through even my darkest days.

It’s Time to Renew Your Spirit!

From time to time we all may stray from God. It’s normal. He knows we will, but He continually calls us back to Him.  It’s always an open invitation. We just need to respond by reaching back out to God.  He is always there with us. That soft voice of a whisper you hear at times in your head, that is God leading you back to Him. All we need to do is take time to talk with God and become closer.  It’s no great effort on our part – we just need to give in and open our hearts to His loving presence. He wants us to experience the depth of His love for us.

God never said that life would easy. He never said we wouldn’t experience pain, but He did say He would never foresake us. He may not provide immediate relief when we pray for Him to do so, but know that He is setting in motion the conditions we need.  It just won’t happen on our timetable.  God’s plan is the best plan. Remember, too, that God gifts everyone something different. He may have blessed one person with abundance and they seem to be living a life of ease. Yet He may have blessed another person with fragility, and through that they too will learn their lessons and be blessed in many ways through their struggles, and yet still live a life of abundance!

No matter what we are blessed with, know that we are God’s children and He wants the best for each of us. When we seek God and make the time to grow closer to Him, He comes closer to us. He will renew our hearts. He will make us strong. He will get us through the toughest of situations. He will give us lasting life.

“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws.” – Ezekiel 36:27

You see when we become closer to God, our spirit does renew; because His Spirit is in us. It is that soft voice we hear that moves us to follow His plan. We just need to be open to receiving His Word and knowing it is His Will that we are acting on.  Like I posted the other day, brush off that devil on your shoulder and let the good guy win!  With God we can do so much more! With God, we will live an abundant life!

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When God Speaks to Us

This morning, I started my day with God by reading a few days worth of my favorite book, “Jesus Calling” by Sarah  Young.  I’ll admit, I fell behind a bit and have some catching up to do.  God knew that, as He knows everything, and as always, He spoke to me this morning and actually challenged me with a few tasks for today.  Yesterday, I wanted something to Blog about, but nothing was coming to me.  I prayed last night, and this morning it became clear.  When God speaks to us in that soft voice we hear in our heads, we should always act on His plan!

How many times have you heard in your head things you should do, but just brushed it off?  I was always told as a kid that there is a good guy on your shoulder and a bad guy on the other, and that we should always brush off the bad guy.  Today, I know that good guy is God and the bad guy, is the devil.  I don’t know about you, but I always want the good guy to win! When we are hearing all of these negative thoughts in our head, who do you think that is? It’s the devil trying to pull us down! God is on our side, fighting for our attention. When you give your attention to God, God gives you the answers!  He is fighting for us, so we should fight to remain faithful!

Push those negative thoughts out of  your head.  No matter how bad your situation is, there has got to be something to be grateful for!  Don’t stop until you find that one thing to be grateful for and then hone in on that thought.  Then when you feel yourself slipping back to the negativity, hone back in on that one positive thought.  Close your eyes and ask God to help you remain positive even though you may be feeling otherwise.

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While we are waiting for the tides to turn in our favor, we need to make preparations for the change with expectancy in our hearts!  If we continue to believe it’s not going to happen, or something bad is going to happen instead…more than likely you are correct because you are allowing that negative thought to exist.  Instead, ask God for what you need, act with expectancy that it will be and know without a shadow of a doubt that if it is His Plan, then it will be.  If it is not His Plan, then trust that He has a better plan.  Get over the fact that it didn’t happen the way that you planned, and know His plan is better, and it’s on the way.  It may take a little longer than you thought, but it is coming.

When you act with expectancy, the wait isn’t that bad because you know it is coming. Sometimes the anticipation is even more exciting than what you are actually waiting for! Think about it.  Remember how exciting it was waiting for vacation to get here and then, just like that – it was over?  You had more fun in your head dreaming and planning everything you were going to do. It got you through those bad days just knowing your vacation was coming. It’s time to put your faith to work and start believing, start expecting good things to happen, and take actions to prepare for His Will to be done! Listen to what He is saying, for He is the ‘good guy’ on your shoulder guiding you and preparing you for a life of abundance.  Don’t let the bad guy win!

 

When Will We Learn?

5a0f5dd4579799680f4ce53b42ae6140 I can’t tell you how many times I have strayed away from my dedicated time with God because of my own desire to spend my time more productively doing the things I feel I must do.  Yet, every time I come back to that quiet place talking with God and being present with Him, I am always amazed.  It’s as if He knows, and He does, exactly where I leave off and when I will pick back up again!

This morning was one of those days.  It is my desire to start my day with God because I know that is the best way to stay intuned with Him, His desires, and His Will for my life. Then, it is the evil one who tempts me into wondering what’s happening on Facebook or who responded to my messages, etc. Once I give in to the distraction, it just spirals into my day and God is left waiting for me to return.  I always return in the evening in prayer, but had I started my day with Him instead, the result would have been so much greater!

You see, as we grow in our desire to please Him above all else, we gain strength to resist these distractions.  It is a daily battle, but if we stick with God, we can’t go wrong – for God is the way!  For me, it’s as if He answers my prayers almost immediately at times.  I always give Him the praise and express my gratitude towards Him because without Him it would not be possible!  I give Him thanks first, and then I let Him know what it is I need. I always ask Him to bring the right people into my life to help me do His Will!

If you are lucky enough to know in your heart what His Will is for you, then you are truly blessed.  He has a plan for all of us and He gave each of us a Gift that we are capable of blessing so many with.  For me, every since I was a young child, He placed a dream in my heart to be an Author.  I never thought that would happen in a million years, but He had a plan.  You’ve heard though that it will happen in His Timing, that is so true.  I had tried earlier to attempt writing a book, but nothing ever happened.  His plan for me was to write spiritual inspirational stories and that plan took time.  It took Him putting me into situations where I could learn what I needed to learn before I was actually ready.  He placed certain people in my path that would help me. He led me in the right direction and reguided my steps when I took the wrong path.  Nothing will stop His Plan, though it may take you much longer to get there when you are not listening and following His lead.

Now that I know this, when I pray, He answers me.  I, though, have to be open and patient to recognizing His words, His plan, and His timing. I do this in knowing and believing in Him and Him alone!  For His Spirit is always with me, and He can do amazing things!  He has blessed me in so many ways and I know that the best is yet to come!  He gave me a second chance at life. He allowed me to heal inside and out after a heart attack last year.  He has blessed me with my second book, “Break Down Your Walls: Be the Person God Created…Be a Better YOU!” available now on Amazon.  Where I share with you everything I learned and wish I had known before my heart attack.  I learned how to deal with my stress, which is what caused my heart attack. Now, through my writing, I am able to help so many others who are struggling as well.

Now, He is working for me to put me in a situation where I can begin to grow my following in a manner that will allow me to dedicate more and more of my time on His Will.  I have found that His Will for me is inspiring others to become a better person, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  The current path He is leading me on is the natural path of wellness in living an abundant life of overall wellness by spreading the love of essential oils.  Essential Oils was God’s Gift to us from day one!  They date back to before Genesis in the Bible and are mentioned throughout the Bible as being the cure to many ailments.  I have found that Young Living Essential Oils is the only company that I would trust when it comes to 100% Thereapeutic Grade Oils because they are the only company with the Seed-to-Seal promise guaranteeing their authenticity through rigorous testing methods and processes to ensure nothing but the absolute best quality.  The oils and products that Young Living offers support every system in our body and aid in supporting our overall wellness, emotions, balancing our spiritually through meditation and aromatherapy.  There are three ways you can use the essential oils: topically, aromatically, and ingesting by using the vitality oils that you can put in your water, use in cooking, or take internally with a vegetable capsule as a dietary supplement.

If you are interested in following me on my spiritual journey, receive my messages, purchase my books, or learn about essential oils, here is my contact information – I would love to connect with you!

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My Books:

Break Down Your Walls – https://www.amazon.com/Break-Down-Your-Walls-Created/dp/1548504017

Signs from God:  https://www.amazon.com/Signs-God-Sharon-Shabinaw/dp/1517325323