Learn To Recognize Your Triggers

“Signs of a Life” – Part IV

Saving GraceAs you can imagine, hearing the nurse call for the paddles and being in the hospital for 10 nights was pretty traumatic. I wasn’t home for long before my doctor recommended I find someone to talk with to help me sort through my stress and anxiety. The first thing she wanted me to come to terms with was recognizing my trigger points. I didn’t know what a trigger point was until much later, but once I learned the meaning behind it, I quickly knew what my trigger was. The way it was explained to me is that it is the first feeling you have of anxiety.  For example, you are sitting quietly in the living room reading a book and someone in the kitchen drops a frying pan or shatters a glass. It’s that feeling right then and there that you feel. What is it for you? Where do you feel it? Do you feel a tightness in your chest? Or is it a sinking feeling in your stomach. How do you react? What do you do?  Think about it for a second and the next time that happens pay close attention and you will learn with your trigger is.

For me, I feel a tightness in my chest and when I am really stressed I then find myself rubbing my hand over my chest to help calm myself. I do this sometimes without even realizing it. When I do, I do eventual realize I am now able to recognize this as my trigger and a sign of anxiety that I need to deal with immediately.  I then just start breathing deeply and talk to myself and God to get reassurance from Him that everything will be okay. Positive words and prayers of affirmation is the first thing I do. I close my eyes and quiet the room and try to feel the presence of God’s embrace. God has told me repeatedly to ‘Be Still’. I’ve taken this to simply mean, to Be Still in his presence, to stop striving for my will, and start embracing His Will and plan for my life. For Only God knows our next move and what is best for us! He wants us to live an abundant life.

“Be still and know that I am God,”  ~ Psalm 46:10

As time has gone by, this practice is all I really need to follow in order to calm myself and quiet my anxieties, but there was a time when this was not enough.  There are other ways to handle our stress and I’ll be sharing next several ways I learned to deal with mine and hope that it will help you!

Be Still

Do You Know Who Your Guardian Angels Are?

“Signs of a Life” – Part III

2019_04_08_2019_03_29_Narrative Project_1932__DSC0225During my recovery in the hospital, I also learned that God is not the only one watching over me from above. When I was in and out of sleep after my heart attack, I went into a dream state where I saw three individuals sitting on a bench much like this one. Except, the bench was just above my bed sitting in the clouds and I could see many silhouettes of people, whom I believed to be angels in the distance. I could see the sides of the first two gentleman closest to me as they were sitting there just waiting. I recognized right away the first man was my father. He looked exactly like he did back in the 70’s with his long sideburns, yet he could not look down at me. The second man, a bit taller than my dad, was my stepfather. He was looking over my dad and down on me with such a loving, yet concerned, look. The third man, I could not see, but somehow I just knew in my heart it was my grandfather. That surprised me more than anything, because for so long I thought my grandmother was one of my guardian angels. Oh, I’m sure she’s still looking down and watching, but this would be the second time now that my grandfather has come to me in a dream just like this and the only time I have dreamed about him since his death.

There is something to be said about the power of three and this holds true for me as well. Three has always been my lucky number and a number I gravitate to. I love to give three kisses good night or goodbye – one is never enough!  One night when I was so stressed out, I felt the presence of someone sitting on my bed behind me three times. It was as if one person sat down and got up, and then another, and then yet another. I swore someone was there; but every time I looked, there was no one. I was awake and it kinda freaked me out a little. Eventually, I just brushed it aside and thought it must be my grandmother checking in on me. After this dream in the hospital though, I now know it was my three guardian angels blessing me and letting me know everything was going to be alright.

Do you know who your guardian angels are? How do they show up to you? Some leave dimes, some show up as butterflies, feathers, hearts. Our loved ones find many ways to show us they are still among us and with us. Never fear for they are still very near! This dream I had in the hospital, it was very real and I no longer have fear of dying. I know my loved ones will be with me one day and we will all meet on the other side – the never ending journey with God!

God Has A Plan For Each Of Us

“Signs of a Life” – Part II

Jeremiah 32:11

As I heard the nurse calling for the paddles, I remember screaming in my head, “God, I’m not ready to die!”  The next thing I remember is grabbing at my face because I couldn’t breathe. As I came to, my nurse was getting off of me and so many people were in my room in a panic of chaos. It was then I realized I did not die, but now things really got serious and things didn’t look so good!

Over the next several days I was watched around the clock and I realized that God definitely had a plan for me. Jeremiah 29:11 eventually became a Sign from God and my favorite verse in the Bible.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Follow the LightWhile God never promised us life would be easy, He did say He would be right there with us guiding us and holding us by our right hand. He did this for me that I am certain. There are times in life when God just has to take control. He realizes we need a break and sometimes forces us to do so! That’s what He did for me and I will be forever grateful.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.   I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”   ~  Isaiah 41:10

Not only did I change through self-development, but my experience also helped change the course of how leadership at my job manages their projects and their teams now. If my experience helped even just one other person, it was all worth it! Since then, I am no longer intimated by anyone. I take life as it comes and know that God always has a better plan than I do. His timing is all that matters. If something doesn’t work out the way I planned, I am thankful that His plan will be much greater than I ever imagined. Trust me, I’m human and sometimes it does take me a little while to swallow my disappointment, but it doesn’t take long before God shows His hand and I am moving forward with much anticipation and excitement of what comes next in this journey with Him by my side!

 

 

It’s Not Worth It!!!

“Signs of a Life” – Part I

Under Pressure

 

Much like many people, I’m sure I’m not alone when I say I’ve lived a stressful life. We all face stress. Stress comes to all of us in many ways and we all deal with stress and react to stress  differently.  For me, I thought I handled it really well. I was strong during the moment when I needed to be for me and my family, though when I was alone I would break down for moment of release. I would recover and do it all over again time after time. I thought I could handle anything.

As a young teen, I watched my mother suffer five years of her life through a nervous breakdown and never knew if my mom would survive that ordeal. Thank God, she did as God had a plan for her. He miraculously healed her when the doctors gave up on her. You can read about her miraculous healing in our first book, “Signs from God” that we published in 2014 and made available on Amazon.  My mother has an amazing story, and while her story will always be a part of mine, my story has allowed us to expand our purpose even further. As you can imagine, watching your mother suffer something so traumatic as this, it makes you grow up fast and you have to learn how to handle that stress. This is where it all started for me at a young age.

At the age of 53, my stress level hit its peak and I broke!  On April 27, 2016, I went to work like any other day, but this day I was managing a difficult project. In fact, one of the biggest projects my team had worked before. We were getting oversight from our upper management team and leadership and we were taking the brunt of the project’s failure due to issues outside of our control. I knew my team and I were doing everything we possibly could, but we were already set up to fail when this project was incorrectly solutioned.  This particular day, I was in a meeting with someone that intimidated me so bad and I was so frustrated because he was not listening to me. When I am made to feel like my opinion doesn’t matter, I clam up. I think that is probably a normal response, and many people do the same thing. Some people might just brush that off and forget about it, but I let it fester, and over the course of several hours it built up so much that I found myself heading to the hospital to be checked out that evening!

The results were positive and they admitted me. I was there for ten long nights with lots more stress and anxiety to follow. Along with cardiac arrest, tests, and even a pump inserted up to my heart to relieve it from having to do all the work. This experience changed my life in so many ways. Some of which I will share with you in this series of blogs!

How do you handle your stress?  Do you internalize it or do you release it? I’ve learned it’s important to understand your triggers. So give that some thought as we move through this series together!

 

As I Look Back I Thank God For Everyday!

“Signs of a Life”  – Welcome

So It BeginsAs I sit back and look over the past three and half years, I thank God every single day for giving me a second chance. I used to think I was so strong that I could handle any situation. I used to think I could help everyone simply because I wanted to. I used to think that I could help people become better people. I used to think I could make a difference. Now, I understand so much more of the bigger picture. It’s not all about you and me. We are such a small piece of the puzzle in God’s masterpiece. Think about it, without every piece to the puzzle the picture is never complete. Things happen for a reason and we cannot change anyone. We can only change our reaction to the situations we are placed in.

The older I get, the more I am seeing the puzzle pieces come together. Like a book has its Chapters; a Play has its Parts; and, a Series has its Seasons. Life too has its Parts, Chapters, and is a series of events that must happen before we can see for ourselves the amazing never-ending Life God has in store for us all. He never promised it was going to be easy and that we wouldn’t experience heartache or pain. Though, I can say that every mountain I’ve had to climb has given me strength and determination to face the next mountain knowing that God will be there to guide me and pull me to safety every single time.

This Spring, I was honored to have been asked to become the subject of a photo-journal storyboard project from an acquaintance at the time. She has since become a very good friend, and I will cherish the memories we shared during this project for the rest of my life and I know we will continue to grow our friendship for a long time. This opportunity was very enlightening to me as she shared with me recently how she was able to capture my story. Seeing her interpretation through her lens was amazing. She named her project, “Signs of a Life”. Seeing how she was able to capture the past three years of my life in photos was a true testament to her God-given talent. To hear how I touched her life was such a heart-warming feeling, it gives me chills now and left me speechless as I turned the pages of the book.

I would like to share this story and her interpretation with all of you if you are interested in following along. I experienced a heart attack in 2016 and God gave me another chance. He opened my eyes, my desires, and my realizations that I deserve more! That Chapter of my life has ended, and I am facing a new and exciting Chapter that will be a page turner for sure. God gave me a talent and a dream to write, and lately He has been after me to share my story and my love of God and how He works in my life so that I can be a light to others. Heidi has given me a unique way of sharing. You will be able to feel my story through her photos and my words.

I encourage you to follow along – you won’t be sorry!

Sometimes You Just Have to Take a Chance!

Jesus said to him, “Get up, pick up your pallet and walk.” ~ John 5:8

The road less traveled may not be an easy road to follow. It might get a little muddy. The path may not be so certain and your destination may be unknown, but one thing remains …. you are not alone. Our minds may be filled with doubt and confusion, butRugged Crossing when we walk with God, He leads us. He plants our feet where He wants them to go. He knows our next step, before we even take it and the step after that.

Sometimes we just have to take a chance and listen to that voice in our head because it is most likely the Holy Spirit trying to talk some sense into us. He’s trying to tell us that God has something amazing in store for us. This past year has been that for me, and it hasn’t been easy. Yes, I’ve had doubts. I’ve had anxiety attacks, and I’ve been scared. During these times, I’ve turned to God for support and He has always been there for me. Making life-changing decisions are never easy. Taking chances are scary. So, I talk to God a lot. I ask for signs. I ask to hear his voice. Recently, I started asking to hear his voice more clearly! I even posted recently about the heart-shaped rock I found by the stream, and how I dared to ask God if that was the best He could do. I even thought to myself that was pretty bold of me, but hey it’s God right, and seconds later I found this rock with not only a heart engraved in itself, but a cross.  2

Since I dared God to do better, He has in so many ways, it’s unbelievable. Yet, when I think I know the answer or the route He is leading me, He makes a turn. I’m faced with a little disappointment, because my plan didn’t turn out as expected. That quickly changes though cause I know His plan is better than mine. Low and behold something new appears: an answer, a new possibility, a small detour, or is it maybe a new future of hope and happiness.

Since this rock was found, I was also Baptized again and this time in the Ocean. It doesn’t get better than that! I washed away all of my old ways and old sins (some known and some unknown) and I feel like I am living my best life ever. I am comfortable with who I am and where I’m going.

Are you living your best life? I urge you to contemplate this question. Give your worries and burdens to God and let Him lead your next step too! Pick up your pallet and rise to a new life, a new way of being and seeing.  Ask Him, “Is this the best you can do God?” Then, with the faith of a mustard seed, believe He has plans to make it better than you could ever imagine! Speak positive affirmations of belief and put your trust in God!

It’s All About Faith!

Many years ago, a baby girl was conceived unbeknownst to her Daddy. A daddy who, at the time, was only a young teenager. Her mommy was forced to put the baby up for adoption. They did what they had to do to get the adoption to go through without the father’s signature and this beautiful little girl was adopted. We all have a story to tell, and I believe Faith has an amazing story of courage, love, faith, and respect – despite everything she’s been through.

Fast forward 20 years, and with all the talk about DNA testing and DNA Ancestory, Faith decided to give God a chance to answer her prayers. Prayers that maybe one day she would be able to find maybe a brother or sister or even a cousin. She had no idea of what the results would turn up, but she desperately wanted to feel like she belonged to a family.

I couldn’t be more excited to share with you all this beautiful picture of my brother and the daughter he always wanted and never knew about!  I haven’t seen him smile this much. She has brought so much laughter and sunshine into our lives in such a short period of time. Faith now has a true sense of family and belonging like she’s never felt before. This is definitely not the end of her story and I’ve hardly scratched the surface of what could definitely be a movie in the making!  As you can see from the picture, Faith, is the spitting image of her father and the similiarities we are finding between her and all of us is mind boggling to say the least!

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God always has a plan and we just have to trust in his timing.

We are all ecstatic that the time is now, but we have alot of catching up to do!

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” 

~ Jeremiah 29:11

God Is That The Best You Could Do?

For a few days I had been struggling with doubt and in my daily quiet time with God the other day, which happened to be my birthday, I asked Him for a sign – a sign that was so clear that I was following His Plan. Later that day, I decided it was way too nice of a day to stay in the house. I packed a bag for a hike and gathered my dog and jumped in the car.

3I have a quiet place I found in a park not far from my house where I love to sit and be with God listening to the trickle of the water of the stream as it flows on by. When I am in the moment with God, I am always looking for hearts 1and crosses. Today was no different! I was combing the waters edge looking for heart shaped rocks and as always, he sent me one. Today though, I wanted something better. As I looked at the rock I said, “is this all you can do God, can’t you do better?”

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And within not even 30 seconds, this second bigger rock came into view and I was blown away!!!

Not only does it have a heart within the rock but there are markings that look like the river ran through it, almost in the form of a cross! Do you see it???

God is always with us and He hears us. We just have to have Faith! I will add these to my collection for sure!

Thank you God for your Birthday gift today!!

 

“To fall in love with God is the greatest of all romances;

to seek him, the greatest adventure;

to find him, the great human achievement.” ~ Raphael Simon

The Rock

When I realize I need to get grounded and spend time with God, I typically turn on my spiritual playlist and start singing and praising him through song. I also love to get outside for a hike back to nature, or a walk looking up into the clouds. I love to look for signs from God, which typically come in the form of hearts, crosses, and affirmations. The other day I was driving down the road singing along with my playlist, and everywhere I looked I found a cross. They were actual crosses, or I saw a cross in a light post on the side of the road, or a cross sign, and even things that weren’t crosses, my eyes found a way to turn them into a cross. It was apparent that God was with me and I felt so blessed. I felt like I could tackle anything.

heart rock

That evening in my quiet time with God I was thanking Him for his presence earlier that day in my journal. I journal to God every day giving Him thanks and asking for His help in areas where I need support, or sending up blessings and prayers for loved ones. On that journal entry, I ended it writing, “You are my Rock!”, and then it hit me and I remembered the heart shaped rock I found a week or so ago while I was out hiking. Moments like that truly stop my heart for a second and I realize what He has done for me in my life and the blessings He is still sending my way! He truly is my rock, my fortress, my everything!

God speaks to us all differently, sometimes we just have to be open to hearing his soft voice or recognizing those signs He sends us. I encourage you to look for the signs, listen for His voice, and reach out because He is always there!

Choose Wellness: It’s a Lifestyle (Post #14)

I’m so glad you made it this far! At this point you might be thinking, “This all sounds great, but how will I afford my new upgraded lifestyle?” Remember that your health is an investment; not an expense – but it can become a huge expense if you don’t make the investment a priority.

It’s important to remember that you aren’t adding expenses to your monthly budget, but trading drugstore/grocery store budgeted purchases for safe alternatives from Young Living. You may pay more up front for Young Living products, but they will save you money in the long run – not just in your shopping budget, but in long-term healthcare savings too!

 

Real talk – take a look at your budget. Are there things you can trim for the health and well-being of your family? Of course this a personal matter, but many families have made room in their budgets by eating out less, downgrading their cable subscription, or skipping the morning drive-through latte. Take a look at your monthly expenses and see what sacrifices you’re willing to make for your long-term wellness.

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Where there is a will, there is a way! I’d love to support you on your own oily journey. Whether you choose to simply buy products that will provide your family with natural wellness alternatives, or you choose to share with your family and friends and work towards getting your oils paid for, the choice is up to you!

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